"These are the words that Moshe spoke to all of the Bnei Yisroel, on the other side of the Yarden..."
Rashi on this Pasuk quotes a Sifri, that Moshe was reminding the Bnei Yisroel about the sins that they had committed during their 40 years of travel.
Rashi comes and explains that this rebuke was given in an indirect way, using references that were not stated clearly, for the sake of the dignity of Israel.
Comes Rav Chaim Shmulevitz z"tl and explains that we see from here, that even when one rebukes another, it must be delivered strongly, yet one must be careful not to degrade the person being rebuked.
One should try to minimize the humiliation of the sinner.
We saw a similar case by Bilam, his donkey died after it spoke in order to save him from the extra embarrassment.
One must also be careful to make sure that the rebuke has a chance to be effective.
Rebuke does not mean that one is supposed to lash out at the wrong doer, yet one is to make the sinner aware that he did something wrong.
Like we see by Yosef, all he needed to say was "I am Yosef..." and right away the brothers realized that they were wrong. They recognized the truth in an instance.
Comes Rav Eliyahu Shlesinger and asks, if we look back at all the times that Moshe rebuked the Bnei Yisroel, we would see that he always rebuked them after they sinned, yet here, there is rebuke without any sin?
Comes Rav E.Shlesinger and explains that this is why the Pasuk says "Alei Hadvarim", the word "Alei" comes to cancel out the previous times, for the previous ones the rebuke was after the sin.
her Moshe rebuked them in order to prevent sin.
All the other rebukes were clearly rebukes, they weren't concealed, since they were after a sin.
Yet here, since it was only preventive rebuke, it was concealed.
Why did Moshe wait till before his death to rebuke the Bnei Yisroel?
Comes the Ksav Sofer and writes that Moshe learnt from Yaakov Avinuh, Yaakov called his sons to his bed before he was about to die, he then blessed them and rebuked them. Why then?
We see from here that
if one rebukes another while he is living his everyday life, there is a
good chance that the rebuke may enter one ear and go right out the other.
However, in both of these cases, both of them were giving rebuke before
their death, since the Bnei Yisroel knew that their leaders days were coming
to an end, there was much greater chance for the rebuke to have an affect
on the listener.
The reason is, because by one being in pain and sorrow, there is a much greater chance for the rebuke to have some affect on the person.
Alot of times people only learn the hard way, through times of Tzaros.
When we rebuke others for their wrong doings, let us first make sure that the other will listen to us, and let us watch our tone.
Because if we are not careful, many times the situation may just get worst.
there are still times that one needs to lash out for certain wrong doings,
in order for the sinner to realize , this time, "he went to far!".
As we all know this week falls out during the Nine Days. We also know that the 9th of Av falls out this year, on Shabbos.
I would like to discuss some issues that deal with the 9th of Av falling out on Shabbos.
There are some Poskim who hold that one should not wear clean, freshly washed clothing on this Shabbos, except for undergarments and socks.
However, Rav Shimon D. Eider brings down that nowadays most people hold like the Gr"ah, that one can change into fresh clean clothing for Shabbos, as long as they are not new.
One is permitted to polish his shoes for Shabbos, yet shining is only allowed for those who hold like the Gra"h above.
Some say that when
one bathes/showers this Erev Shabbos, he should not use hot water(rather
While others permit the use if one usually bathes/showers with hot water every Erev Shabbos.
They also would permit washing ones hair.
However, using shampoo and soap, many Poskim prohibit.
There are those that permit the use of shampoo and soap, when it is used to get rid of dirt or prespiration, or if one uses it for medical reasons.
One does not say Tzsidkascha
Tzedek... by Mincha, on Shabbos.
Yet one does say Av Harachamim after Kerias Hatorah, by Shacharis.
One does not say "Veh Yeten Lecha...".
We know that on Tisha
B'Av should only learn torah that has to do with the 9th of Av.
However on Shabbos, most Poskim hold that one may learn any Torah topic that he wants to.
(There are some who say, not to learn Pirkei Avos after Mincha).
One is allowed to eat
meat and wine during all the Shabbos meals, however, he must make sure
to end the meal before sunset (Shekiah).
One does not eat a Seudah Hamfsekes, thus one may eat together with others, and we are not worried of 3 mean eating together for a Mezuman.
One must say Havdalah in Shemonei Esrei, or "Baruch Hamavdil..." after Shabbos.
One does not make the
regular Havdalah after Shabbos, yet he does make the Beracha "Borei Meorei
Ha Eish". (After Ma-ariv, before Eicha. If not said, one may say
it later on in the night).
Havdalah is recited only after the fast, and one only says the Beracha on the wine and Hamavdil (No candle, no spices).
One may say Kiddush Levanah after the fast, yet he should fiest change into his regular shoes and have something to eat first.
One should not prepare
the Eicha or Kinos on Shabbos for after Shabbos, unless one learns from
it on Shabbos itself.
One is not allowed to prepare his shoes on Shabbos for Tisha B'Av. After Borchu, in Ma-ariv (Motzei Shabbos) one takes off his leather shoes. And Davens on low benches.
After the fast is over,
one is allowed to drink the wine from the Havdalah, one is also allowed
to take a haircut, do laundry, make a Shehechianu, right after the fast
Some say one should not eat meat and wine until the next day (in the Morning), unless it is for a Mitzvah.
While listening to music some say one is allowed, while others say to wait till Monday morning.
The above was taken from Rav Shimon D. Eider and Rav Yosef Ginsburg.
For final Psak Halacha, please ask your Reliable Local Orthodox Rabbi(R.L.O.R).